I have an advanced theory question which maybe some of the other veterans can help answer. I've searched other threads and don't believe this has ever been asked this way: Do Mirrors help protect each other's PoLR AND teach them about it? The question stems around the difference between the Role function and the PoLR. The 3rd function is describably weaker than the first 2, and the 4th function is weaker than the 3rd function, but to what degree? On a scale of 1-10, if leading function is strength 10, and PoLR is strength 1, where would the Creative and Role functions fall? Would Creative function be like strength 8 or 9, and Role function be like strength 6? It seems some people perceive Role function to be strength 3 or 4, but the ability to utilize the Role function playfully, socially, and in dual-seeking seems to be greatly downplayed.
Most theory I read discusses how Mirrors can help each other see a different perspective because of the difference in perception between leading and creative functions, and the alternate energy levels. But wouldn't the corollary be the role function and PoLR difference also plays a part? If the Role function is stronger than people assume, then really, using your leading, creative, and role function to perceive information would help cover the 'blind spot' of your Mirror partner.
Much theory and literature has been written to describe how duals protect each other's weak points. Of course one's 4th function is your dual's 8th function which is strong but unvalued, and they tend to perceive humorously. So even when your weakness is obviously shown, your dual finds it humorous/irrelevant and jokes along about it and accepts you anyway. Isn't this a similar phenomenon with Mirror partner, when your PoLR hits their Role function? So Mirrors can perceive both of each other's weakness CONSCIOUSLY, and still laugh about it, since they are still unvalued?
I think there is something of value in being able to have your PoLR expressed consciously by someone who also finds it unvalued, that way you can consciously understand your PoLR better without being offended or threatened or pressured by the person doing it. In this way, I think the Mirror partner fulfills a very interesting role in self-growth in socionics, that neither Duals nor Activity partners are able to do. Duals have your PoLR as 8th Demonstrative function, and Activity partners have your PoLR as 7th Ignoring function - in this way Duals & Activity partners seem to 'cover' your weakness for you, but in a way which makes you dependent on them, and not in a way which helps you actually understand your weakness or get better at it or become well-rounded.
And another advanced twist: there are only 2 types out of the 16, in relation to whatever type you are, who are able to consciously express your PoLR despite not valuing it - your Mirror and your Supervisee. (only 2 types with your PoLR as their 3rd/Role function.) If we are assuming that you are not able to express your own PoLR sufficiently to understand it, in the case of Identity and Lookalike relationships, then those 2 relationships should not be considered. Only those who have your PoLR as their Role function can consciously express it without valuing it.
Information obtained from your Supervisee is obviously difficult to listen to or comprehend since their Creative function is unvalued by you, so their perception of what information related to your PoLR is relevant may come across as threatening. It seems, ONLY your Mirror partner is able to express your PoLR in a non-threatening way as their Role function, a conscious way to help you understand it, while simultaneously valuing all of the same functions that you personally still value.
Or, do you find the Role function is not that strong? If you perceive it to be as low as strength 2 or 3 out of 10, then would you (being any reader of this) still consider the Mirror relationship as being helpful in TEACHING someone about their PoLR? Even if the other person can't STRONGLY and CONSCIOUSLY express the Role function, could one not observe the behaviors of their Mirror partner to gain a better perception of social skill and interaction in working with other people from other quadras who might value your PoLR?
According to these Mirror descriptions, the author "O.B. Slinko" says: "On the other hand, your mirror partner can sometimes cause you irritation or even deeply offend you. This is facilitated by the structure of not only his creative block, but also of superego block: the role function that he falls upon coincides with your vulnerable, most painful function, and vice versa, thus your mirror partner can irritate and be feel irritated by your own vulnerable spot." --- However, I disagree with that statement. People are subconsciously searching for their 5th and 6th functions. Mirror partners are able to fulfill that to a degree and attempt to use those functions to help each other (with weak effect, but still the effort). How could someone fundamentally be hurt by someone else's Role function when neither person values that information? In my own personal experience, I can laugh easily with Mirror partners. However, I can see where people try to improve their Role function, but the Mirror partner doesn't even try but just wants to keep it somewhat as a blind spot, or they're unable to improve it at all, which could be annoying to the Mirror partner.
In those articles, the author "R.K. Sedih" says: "Mirror relations perhaps take the second place in how much partners can learn from each other." (he suggests Identity is #1 for self-growth). Would Mirror fundamentally be considered #2? And, as another advanced question - how would Supervisee rank compared to Duality or Activity or the other relations in terms of self-growth, in regards to what I wrote above about the Supervisee being able to express your PoLR consciously as their Role function but in an unvalued way?
The authors "A.V. Bukalov, G. Boiko" say: "These relations are valuable because they let each partner see the other 50% of the visible world, to observe it from two different sides." This is exactly what I'm talking about. Most people perceive that statement in terms of Leading and Creative function to help grow strengths, but I'm curious about it in terms of Role and PoLR functions to help soften one's weaknesses for self-growth.
"V.V. Gulenko" says that, "Mirror pair requires independence." This is similar to what I mean where Duals & Activity partners can become more dependent on one another, but that Mirror can be helpful for personal and individual growth in a way similar to Identity.
Please share your thoughts and comments.
Do Mirrors help protect each other's PoLR AND teach them about it?
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