Also feel like there is a general difference between how the quadras complain. Betas seem to complain or bitch about things or people in a particular attempt to try to change your mind, or state something for you to agree with or disagree with, and I find that rather frustrating - sometimes they even put things in such terms that your actual opinion is at odds with what they are trying to promote or get you to agree with, although its more so the unhealthier ones that do this. (and I'm sure delta has its own version of this that agitatates betas, see "deltas not talking about things that bother them" etc) . But when what I said happens, I have become accustomed to disregarding their whole narrative, and it frustrates them but I don't really care anymore.
Gammas on the other hand, seem particularly unconcerned about what you think, and much more interested in the sovereignty and the severity of everyone's opinions (democratic / aristocratic?) . Sure, some of them might try to make a case about something, but they seem on the whole less bound to bitching-as-influence. I feel a little bit like sometimes gammas (maybe with exception to LIEs) sometimes run off of their discontent or bitching, almost as if it was the mainstay of socializing, or, you have to complain to really get your point across. OH YEAH WHO SUCKS TODAY, etc. But this is less annoying by far than betas, as it is more so just.... expressing negative opinion about things or people with very little comparative guilting - it's more just a matter of how much or to what degree you might agree or disagree.
Alpha complainting seems so weird as they often appear veiled or constrained when they do it. Clearly not as "well versed" in the art of freely expressing hate or disgust as gammas, there's often an element of struggle, and even sometimes an uncomfortable feeling that it is MY problem that they are having to deal with something that bothers them - simply because I brought it up or am related to it.
Alpha and Beta somewhat tie for me in terms of the ineffectiveness of their complaints, in that Betas seem mostly concerned with convincing themselves or getting a group of people to have some sort of consensus (often without concern for accuracy, it feels), whereas Alphas seem more just inept or caught in some kind of complaining about how things are uncomfortable and things should 'just go away'. Gammas, on the other hand, seem entirely unable to get over some things or, perhaps more so, might over attribute one thing, even if it is true, and not be able to get beyond it or even conceive that such maneuverability is possible. A classic example that you will assuredly come across is the ESI who endlessly complains about a coworker or person in their life but does almost nothing to augment the situation, or the ILI who will simply be content with you being a terrible person forever and never inputting anything further into their perfect intuition of who you are.
Which of course, leaves us Delta. Overall, sure, the easiest to sort out. The STs sometimes bitch about things that could easily be solved with some extending from themselves and showing minimal degrees of diplomacy or benevolence, and the NFs have the inverted problems of being able to avoid so much stress just by being ok with telling people no or not feeling like a bad person because they don't give someone something. So I suppose it's not so much that deltas have less problems, but perhaps that the arena for their problems feels more sane than the other quadras.
On the whole, I don't think any quadra really has it better than the others here, but I think it's an interesting lens to look through to see what / why / how the nature of some forms of complaining can feel how it does.
open question: how do you feel about complaining?
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