Help me type a friend

I've known this person for a couple of years, and recently have compiled this sort of higher-level, not-too-well-organized list of my own observations on their behavior.

- Can misinterpret what people say, think, mean, and feel

- Cannot see well into people

- Desires external validation

- On opinions and judgements
- Especially the logical ones
- Judgement on their own behavior is sensitive

- Approval and happiness of others is a huge motivator

- However, progress (especially of self) is more important than temporarily rocking boats
- So long as the upsetness is temporary

- Focuses on external details to build internal pictures

- But since they can't see interiors the image is often wrong
- Is a literalist

- Enjoys using external factors to impact internals of people

- Enjoys seeing success in that endeavor
- This can be evidenced in enjoying finding "buttons" to push in people, to get external reactions

- Desires introspection, or understanding of self, but since they can't see inside they need the external validation / input
- Forgiving of individuals, or at least puts in efforts to keep a relationship smooth
- Has ups and downs of productivity

- Productivity is a means to an end

- Has a talent for making positive connections quickly

- Is usually immediately likable

- Lack of decisiveness is a sensitive weakness
- Independence (self-care) is a valued weakness
- Applies own truths to others

- Learning not always the case
- But, ironically, imposing the "not always the case" on others
- Assumes externals are what others do, too, because it's (initially) more efficient

- Takes answers at face value

- Unless there's a precedent for not doing so

- Nuances in expression are often lost

- This is valued, though

- Indefinite and prolonged circles of information or thought are annoying
- "True to oneself" is a difficult concept
- Alienation (found or interpreted in external displays of disapproval) is painful
- Can be impulsive

- In judgements

- Disagreement with judgments is welcomed
- Strategies with people (i.e. dealing with internals) needs to be explicit, practical, actionable, and explainable
- Enjoys having a purpose or end goal to actions

- Is used to having those goals and purposes provided
- Is conflictedly rebellious of externally forced / offered goals

- Tends to assume an idea or an individual has the same (internal) state throughout time

- Unless something external comes along to show otherwise

- Has long-term visions

- The visions tend to change, though
- And the vision is more prevention of negative than acquisition of positive
- The course varies quite a bit, which leads to false starts and stops
- How to get from start to end goal seems hard, since concrete steps are the only building blocks

- Will thoroughly peruse external details

- The organization of said details can be somewhat haphazard
- Organizing the details (aka judgments) is welcome from external sources
- "This is what it means" is welcome

- Has genuine concern for the wellbeing of others

- This seems instinctive/immediate, regardless of upbringing
- Some rebellion to this, but can be accounted for in normal self-development / separation

- Cold logistics are not interpreted as cold

- Are appreciated, actually, as it helps achieve goals

- When it comes to goals, it seems natural to break down the process into steps
- Since internals are hidden, rules of thumb / behavior are how he relies on creating connection
- Knowing what to do is different than actually doing it

- Follow-through is inconsistent, not sure why

- Puts positive spins on everything

- Does not like negativity

- Reacts well to offers of help with physical tasks, particularly ones that he knows should be done but hasn't yet

- Relief of pressure to achieve a goal could be a motivator

- Action tends to be taken based on conjecture

- Other people's facts/opinions/judgements are taken as fact for themselves

- Self-improvement is a strong value

- Other improvement is, too...
- All-the-things improvement, actually, but self is easiest to control

- Opinion is sometimes mentally misplaced as fact
- Discussion of failure is avoided, but when it does surface deflection of responsibility tends to happen

- "I am in my current state because of external factors" e.g. I relate to people poorly because of emotional abuse while growing up
- However, this could be an (external) observed method of making sense of internals

- Advice from them comes in a sort of shotgun format, covering a wide surface with lots of irrelevance in the hopes of hitting (unknown) things that actually help
- It's a sensitive vulnerability to accurately judge someone's internal feeling because it's so valued
- Despite joviality, is very ernest

- The humor is surface-level and literal

- Has a strong sense of / desire for justice and fairness
- Black and white thinking
- Likes the concept of a team (this needs further thought...)
- Quality of self and what one does is valued

- This includes especially interactions with others

What type might this be? In socionics, enneagram, whatever?

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Help me type a friend