**40q** ESE? EIE? SLE? Something else? All opinions welcome!

1. Tell us how did you build relationships with others over the last day.

lol, I didn't. In general, I can talk to anyone, really. Prefer to talk about subjects of mutual interest. I just don't build close relationships very easily.

2. What is sympathy? When do you need to express it? When is it advised not to? How do you express it?

Sympathy is...if someone is feeling bad/unhappy, and I know why or they tell me why, I kind of...awkwardly say things like..."I'm sorry"..."anything I can do to help?"...stuff like that. Tbh, my first instinct is to avoid or leave the situation entirely.

It's socially "required" to express it under certain circumstances. Like if someone's family member dies, you say "I'm sorry for your loss". And sometimes I genuinely feel bad for them. Or I guess you could have positive sympathy, like you could be happy for a coworker who got a promotion.

3. Are there any standards of behavior or interpersonal relationships in the society? If so, do you adhere to them? Do people always have to maintain them? Why?

Sure there are. There are tons of little standards of behavior like that. Every setting seems to have its own; with family, friends, coworkers/at work, groups outside of work, etc etc. I guess I mostly adhere to them within groups, but not within one-on-one interpersonal relationships. I do it because I want to continue to be a part of some groups.

No, people don't always have to maintain them. In large groups, it helps if most people follow the same social conventions, but outside of that I couldn't care less (like if a certain couple chooses not to get married or something like that, I don't care that it goes against social standards). Also, outbursts of emotion sometimes happen in socially inappropriate places, like people suddenly crying or becoming angry at work. I don’t think that’s a huge deal, as long as it’s rare. Shit happens.

4. What does moral mean? What is immoral? How do you understand these terms and does your understanding correlate with the others? How can you evaluate the correctness of your own understanding?

I guess “moral” means morally good, as in morally acceptable/permissible, or morally encouraged, or even morally required. (Those aren't all the same, btw.) “Immoral” means morally wrong, as in morally impermissible. I think what I find morally permissible or impermissible probably overlaps considerably with many people, but not everyone. I am mostly just for the greater/collective good, and that's why there's so much overlap.

I think most people determine what is morally impermissible based on their particular religion. I'm religious myself, but not of the dominant faith in my area, so there is some divergence in our moralities WRT things like personal freedom / social permissiveness, concepts of justice (not necessarily in a legal sense), concepts of equality, and some others. I evaluate the correctness of my understanding based not on my religious beliefs, but on the greater principles underlying my faith.

5. Somebody is giving you a negative attitude – what is your reaction? Could you show your own negative attitude toward someone else? If so, how? Could you feel ill-disposed towards somebody for a long time? How easily do you forgive people?

If someone is like hating on me or something I'm just going to let it slide. Otherwise, I’d try to identify and address their underlying concern that was causing the negative attitude. Rarely have I had someone flip out at me for no reason at all; there's usually something I did/said, a behavior I need to correct, or a larger situation that needs to be resolved. I admit that I sometimes escalate the situation by mirroring the negative attitude back at them and causing a conflict; I tend to antagonize people at times so long as the conflict is purely verbal and there’s little/no chance of a physical confrontation.

Yes, I can show my own negative attitude toward someone else. Again, I do this verbally, not physically. At times, I can express attitudes far more negative than I actually hold towards the person.

No, I couldn’t feel ill-disposed towards someone for a long time. I forget to hold grudges most of the time; my emotions, when they exist at all, are quite transient. I forgive pretty easily unless it was a serious harm/wrong, which thankfully hasn't happened yet.

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**40q** ESE? EIE? SLE? Something else? All opinions welcome!