LSE and compartementalizing their feelings/relationships?

Hi,

I feel silly to came here for dating advices but I am pretty much in pain and confused by my dual relationship with a LSE.

I have an ambiguous relationship with him since last summer. I actually met him two years ago at a party where we made out, and he lives two hours away. Last summer, we randomly started playing League of Legends together, which is an online video game. It led us to grow quite close. When he manifested the will to see me again, we slept together. I confessed my feelings to him and though he admitted they were mutual, he told me that he wasn't willing to date me at the time because he needed to recollect from an obnoxious relationship. He told me he didn't want our relationship to change though, because he cared about me and didn't want to lose me.

At this point, we were just exchanging news from times to times but managed to keep contact that way. In the middle of november, he published a picture where he was holding another girl who was his new girlfriend (I am fairly sure that she is a SEE). I felt hurt because she lived in the same area than me, which made me realize that he actually chose to invest with her instead of me. I confronted him, telling him that I felt used and led on. We argued because of this, and I cut contact after getting hurtful words from him.

Two months ago, he sent me a message telling me that he was sad about my decision and hoped that I was fine. He told me that I was more than just someone in his circle, but a person he really cared about, and that going back to video games led him to think about me a lot. That's how he came back into my life, and now we're back spending a LOT of time together, it is literally constant communication when we're both available. We're using vocal chat and I guess that's why our relationship progressed so well despite being LDR. We have a strong and special bond, I feel close to him and we generally have a lot of fun as well as sharing things about our lives. He literally never mentions his gf or what he does with her.

I don't know how to analyze this situation. It seems that he cares about me and enjoys spending time with me. At some point, he had feelings for me but I have no idea how he feels right now or how exactly he regards our relationship. I don't know if I should cut contact again or explain to him how I feel, and if it would be a mistake to do so. I even wonder if I should just take some distance and wait patiently for things to evolve. I can't help but see hope in the fact that he's still giving me such importance despite having her in his life. It leads me to hope that their relationship is more of a shallow one and that we might have a future together if I am patient enough. Since he was initially attracted to me both physically and emotionally, it seems to me that I might still have chances. I've even read that an LSE bored in his relationship won't leave it immediatly but rather pretend to be busy. I know that nurturing such thoughts won't do me any good though.

I am quite lost. I feel like it is an unfair situation but I have feelings for him regardless.

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LSE and compartementalizing their feelings/relationships?